Parkland widow renovates home, preserves memories

HOLLYWOOD, Fla. — (AP) — Debbi Hixon was a bundle of nerves waiting to see the 10-day makeover that had transformed her home. She wasn't concerned about the new kitchen counters or paint colors; the Parkland shooting widow was worried the fancy new decor would wipe away memories of her husband.

Athletic director Chris Hixon was one of 17 people killed on Valentine's Day two years ago at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School, the largest school shooting in U.S. history. The 49-year-old military veteran was gunned down while trying to run back into the building to save the students he loved so dearly, his wife said during an interview with The Associated Press on Friday.

“He's still part of our family and I didn't want it to feel like he's not here anymore,” she said of the home renovation, completed in a whirlwind 10 days for the show “Military Makeover.” The 10-week TV show aired its first episode Friday morning.

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Chris' presence can still be felt everywhere, as if he could walk through the door at any moment. His maroon school jacket hangs casually in a front hallway with several other clothes. The pool bar he built out of wooden pallets two weeks before the shooting remains untouched.

Also unchanged is the color of the master bedroom, still painted in the unconventional brick red that Chris insisted on after randomly spying it while driving down the street one day. The focal point of the bedroom are three shelves that serve as a memorial to Chris. His black athletic director shirt is framed on the top and there are photos of him, along with drawings others did of him after he died.

“That's my favorite picture of him," Debbi Hixon said, pointing to one. “It looks like he's looking at me. It's alive.”

The couple had hoped to renovate the kitchen in the tiny South Florida home that Debbi Hixon grew up in. Post-renovation, wood floors shine and the bright, open new kitchen features modern countertops and a breakfast nook with a cozy, oversize bench for family gatherings.

Plumbers, painters, landscapers and electricians from the community were among the hundreds of volunteers who helped the “Military Makeover” crews.

Displaying that same community spirit, Stoneman Douglas students on Friday organized a special breakfast for first responders as part of a Day of Service and Love throughout the Broward County school district. All county schools observed a moment of silence and classes were let out early to allow staff and students to participate in community service projects.

Married 28 years when he was killed in 2018, Debbi and Chris Hixon struggled during a long separation when he was stationed in Iraq with the Navy for six months during Desert Storm. But the distance only deepened their love, she said.

He often surprised her by sending flowers, roses especially, and was constantly buying her jewelry, even though she scolded him, saying they couldn't afford it. She baked brownies in care packages and they exchanged lengthy letters that one of the crew members found in the attic during the home makeover.

When the youngest of their two sons was born, they faced near tragedy: Corey was born 24 years ago with severe bleeding on his brain and without the left side of his heart. He underwent nine open heart surgeries before he was 8 years old. He was also born with Kabuki Syndrome, an extremely rare genetic disorder with some similarities to Down Syndrome.

But the couple soldiered on, surrounded by a close-knit extended family and strong ties to their school and church. Chris Hixon was always inviting people over to the house for impromptu dinners without telling her, Debbi Hixon said, and before she knew it their house was packed with more than a dozen people.

“That was what Chris did. He brought people together," she said. “He made you feel like you were part of his family."

At school, Chris Hixon was known for helping maintenance crews set up before and after wrestling matches and for volunteering for just about everything. Debbi Hixon also worked at the school as a marine science teacher.

Every night before bed, Debbi Hixon said, she listens to the few voicemails from her husband that she saved on her phone.

"Of course he's talking about sports in all of them," she said, laughing, noting that he was always coming or going from a school event. Each one of the messages, though, ended with the same simple phrase: “I love you.”

On Valentines Day 2018, the couple was rushing to get out the door, but son Corey insisted they stop and open presents. If he hadn't, Debbi Hixon said, she never would have opened the card Chris gave her. It would have been too painful.

Chris' signature from the Valentine is now tattooed on her wrist with a cardinal, a symbol that appears throughout the home in trinkets and drawings. Every time the family sees one, it feels like a sign that he's watching them.

"It's like standing in quicksand and you keep trying to move out of it and something keeps pulling you back in," she said of the last two years, wiping away tears. “We are grieving in such a public arena."

Hixon is trying to use that platform to make changes. She recently decided to run for a seat on the county school board and has become active in the debate about making schools safer.

Debbi Hixon and her oldest son, Tom, watched the gut-wrenching school surveillance video of Chris' last moments. It confirmed what they knew: He fought until the very last moment trying to protect his students.

But she still thinks some of his greatest victories were during the mundane, everyday moments of life, as father and husband.

“I don't want people to forget that he was a hero every day, not just that day," she said.

Debbi Hixon, poses for a portrait on Friday, Feb. 14, 2020, in Hollywood, Fla. Hixon is the the widow of Parkland victim, Chris Hixon, a former athletic director and military veteran, killed in the school shooting on Valentine's Day two years ago at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School. Her home was recently renovated by the program "Military Makeovers." (AP Photo/Brynn Anderson)
Debbi Hixon, poses for a portrait on Friday, Feb. 14, 2020, in Hollywood, Fla. Hixon is the the widow of Parkland victim, Chris Hixon, a former athletic director and military veteran, killed in the school shooting on Valentine's Day two years ago at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School. Her home was recently renovated by the program "Military Makeovers." (AP Photo/Brynn Anderson) (Brynn Anderson)
Memorabilia of Parkland school shooting victim Chris Hixon is displayed at his widow, Debbi Hixon's, home on the second anniversary of his death Friday, Feb. 14, 2020, in Hollywood, Fla. Hixon was one of 17 people killed in a school shooting on Valentine's Day two years ago at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School. The home was recently renovated by the program "Military Makeovers." (AP Photo/Brynn Anderson)
Memorabilia of Parkland school shooting victim Chris Hixon is displayed at his widow, Debbi Hixon's, home on the second anniversary of his death Friday, Feb. 14, 2020, in Hollywood, Fla. Hixon was one of 17 people killed in a school shooting on Valentine's Day two years ago at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School. The home was recently renovated by the program "Military Makeovers." (AP Photo/Brynn Anderson) (Brynn Anderson)
The Hixon family, Tom, Debbi, and Corey, pose for a portrait in front of a painting of Chris Hixon, a Parkland school shooting victim on Friday, Feb. 14, 2020, in Hollywood, Fla. Chris Hixon was killed in a school shooting on Valentine's Day two years ago at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School. His widow Debbi recently had the family home renovated by the program "Military Makeovers." (AP Photo/Brynn Anderson)
The Hixon family, Tom, Debbi, and Corey, pose for a portrait in front of a painting of Chris Hixon, a Parkland school shooting victim on Friday, Feb. 14, 2020, in Hollywood, Fla. Chris Hixon was killed in a school shooting on Valentine's Day two years ago at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School. His widow Debbi recently had the family home renovated by the program "Military Makeovers." (AP Photo/Brynn Anderson) (Brynn Anderson)
Debbi Hixon, shows a tattoo of a cardinal, the number fourteen, and the signature on the last Valentines Day card that husband Chris Hixon wrote on the card before he died two years ago on Friday, Feb. 14, 2020, in Hollywood, Fla. Her husband was gunned down at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School along with 16 others in 2018. (AP Photo/Brynn Anderson)
Debbi Hixon, shows a tattoo of a cardinal, the number fourteen, and the signature on the last Valentines Day card that husband Chris Hixon wrote on the card before he died two years ago on Friday, Feb. 14, 2020, in Hollywood, Fla. Her husband was gunned down at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School along with 16 others in 2018. (AP Photo/Brynn Anderson) (Brynn Anderson)
The Hixon family, sons of Chris Hixon, Corey, left, and Tom, right, lower the flag to half staff on the second anniversary of his death on Friday, Feb. 14, 2020, in Hollywood, Fla. Hixon was killed in a school shooting on Valentine's Day two years ago at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School. His widow Debbi recently had the family home renovated by the program "Military Makeovers." (AP Photo/Brynn Anderson)
The Hixon family, sons of Chris Hixon, Corey, left, and Tom, right, lower the flag to half staff on the second anniversary of his death on Friday, Feb. 14, 2020, in Hollywood, Fla. Hixon was killed in a school shooting on Valentine's Day two years ago at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School. His widow Debbi recently had the family home renovated by the program "Military Makeovers." (AP Photo/Brynn Anderson) (Brynn Anderson)
Debbi Hixon, cries as she speaks during an interview with The Associated Press on Friday, Feb. 14, 2020, in Hollywood, Fla. Hixon is the widow of Chris Hixon who was killed in a school shooting on Valentine's Day two years ago at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School. She recently had the family home renovated by the program "Military Makeovers." (AP Photo/Brynn Anderson)
Debbi Hixon, cries as she speaks during an interview with The Associated Press on Friday, Feb. 14, 2020, in Hollywood, Fla. Hixon is the widow of Chris Hixon who was killed in a school shooting on Valentine's Day two years ago at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School. She recently had the family home renovated by the program "Military Makeovers." (AP Photo/Brynn Anderson) (Brynn Anderson)
Debbi Hixon, pauses for a moment as she cries during an interview with The Associated Press on Friday, Feb. 14, 2020, in Hollywood, Fla. Hixon is the widow of Chris Hixon who was killed in a school shooting on Valentine's Day two years ago at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School. She recently had the family home renovated by the program "Military Makeovers." (AP Photo/Brynn Anderson)
Debbi Hixon, pauses for a moment as she cries during an interview with The Associated Press on Friday, Feb. 14, 2020, in Hollywood, Fla. Hixon is the widow of Chris Hixon who was killed in a school shooting on Valentine's Day two years ago at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School. She recently had the family home renovated by the program "Military Makeovers." (AP Photo/Brynn Anderson) (Brynn Anderson)
Debbi Hixon, fiddles with a finger print charm, on a bracelet that her husband Chris Hixon gave her before he died on Friday, Feb. 14, 2020, in Hollywood, Fla. Hixon was killed in a school shooting on Valentine's Day two years ago at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School. His widow Debbi recently had the family home renovated by the program "Military Makeovers." (AP Photo/Brynn Anderson)
Debbi Hixon, fiddles with a finger print charm, on a bracelet that her husband Chris Hixon gave her before he died on Friday, Feb. 14, 2020, in Hollywood, Fla. Hixon was killed in a school shooting on Valentine's Day two years ago at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School. His widow Debbi recently had the family home renovated by the program "Military Makeovers." (AP Photo/Brynn Anderson) (Brynn Anderson)
Debbi Hixon, speaks during an interview with The Associated Press on Friday, Feb. 14, 2020, in Hollywood, Fla. Her husband Chris Hixon was killed in a school shooting on Valentine's Day two years ago at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School. She recently had the family home renovated by the program "Military Makeovers." (AP Photo/Brynn Anderson)
Debbi Hixon, speaks during an interview with The Associated Press on Friday, Feb. 14, 2020, in Hollywood, Fla. Her husband Chris Hixon was killed in a school shooting on Valentine's Day two years ago at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School. She recently had the family home renovated by the program "Military Makeovers." (AP Photo/Brynn Anderson) (Brynn Anderson)
Corey Hixon, 24, left, and Debbi Hixon, right, stand in a renovated room with memorabilia of Chris Hixon, a victim of the Parkland school shooting on the second anniversary of his death Friday, Feb. 14, 2020, in Hollywood, Fla. “He's still part of our family and I didn't want it to feel like he's not here anymore,” she said of the home renovation completed during a whirlwind 10-days for the show “Military Makeovers.” (AP Photo/Brynn Anderson)
Corey Hixon, 24, left, and Debbi Hixon, right, stand in a renovated room with memorabilia of Chris Hixon, a victim of the Parkland school shooting on the second anniversary of his death Friday, Feb. 14, 2020, in Hollywood, Fla. “He's still part of our family and I didn't want it to feel like he's not here anymore,” she said of the home renovation completed during a whirlwind 10-days for the show “Military Makeovers.” (AP Photo/Brynn Anderson) (Brynn Anderson)
Corey Hixon, 24, wears a shirt with photographs of his father, Chris Hixon, as his mother, Debbi Hixon, stands in the doorway on Friday, Feb. 14, 2020, in Hollywood, Fla. Chris Hixon was killed in the school shooting on Valentine's Day two years ago at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School in Parkland, Fla. “He's still part of our family and i didn't want it to feel like he's not here anymore,” she said of the home renovation completed during a whirlwind 10-days for the show “Military Makeovers.” (AP Photo/Brynn Anderson)
Corey Hixon, 24, wears a shirt with photographs of his father, Chris Hixon, as his mother, Debbi Hixon, stands in the doorway on Friday, Feb. 14, 2020, in Hollywood, Fla. Chris Hixon was killed in the school shooting on Valentine's Day two years ago at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School in Parkland, Fla. “He's still part of our family and i didn't want it to feel like he's not here anymore,” she said of the home renovation completed during a whirlwind 10-days for the show “Military Makeovers.” (AP Photo/Brynn Anderson) (Brynn Anderson)
Debbi Hixon, left, is seen near a shadow box of her husband's funeral flowers on the second anniversary of his death on Friday, Feb. 14, 2020, in Hollywood, Fla. Hixon is the the widow of Parkland school shooting victim Chris Hixon, a former athletic director and military veteran, who was killed in a school shooting on Valentine's Day two years ago at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School. (AP Photo/Brynn Anderson)
Debbi Hixon, left, is seen near a shadow box of her husband's funeral flowers on the second anniversary of his death on Friday, Feb. 14, 2020, in Hollywood, Fla. Hixon is the the widow of Parkland school shooting victim Chris Hixon, a former athletic director and military veteran, who was killed in a school shooting on Valentine's Day two years ago at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School. (AP Photo/Brynn Anderson) (Brynn Anderson)
Toni Hixon, mother of Parkland school shooting victim, Chris Hixon, shows a engraved necklace with her son's face on the second anniversary of his death Friday, Feb. 14, 2020, in Hollywood, Fla. Chris Hixon, a former athletic director and military veteran, was one of 17 people killed in a school shooting on Valentine's Day two years ago at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School. (AP Photo/Brynn Anderson)
Toni Hixon, mother of Parkland school shooting victim, Chris Hixon, shows a engraved necklace with her son's face on the second anniversary of his death Friday, Feb. 14, 2020, in Hollywood, Fla. Chris Hixon, a former athletic director and military veteran, was one of 17 people killed in a school shooting on Valentine's Day two years ago at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School. (AP Photo/Brynn Anderson) (Brynn Anderson)